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About Us 2017-09-22T03:27:12+00:00

Dale and Jena are foodies who seek to visit every “hole in the wall” in the US as they travel. Though they can eat their weight in chips and salsa, Dale likes all things peanut butter and Jena is wired to locate every Dairy Queen in proximity, because it is always a perfect time for a Blizzard. With a love for the outdoors, they are always up for an adventure. It is their calling and passion to see marriages and individuals walking with God and fulfilling their unique purposes. While there is no greater experience than traveling on the weekends and seeing lives changed, their ideal date would be snuggled in their media room with popcorn, watching Alabama Football and HGTV’s “Fixer Upper”.

The Forehand’s are sought after speakers for conferences and events all across the country.  Their local church conference LET’S GET REAL® has powerfully impacted marriages in the local church (visit the event page for more information).  Dale and Jena have been regular keynote speakers for national ministries like Lifeway and Professional Athletes Outreach & their story and ministry has been featured on the cover of Lifeway’s Home Life Magazine , CBN’s “700 Club”, “Life Today” with James and Betty Robinson, and Focus on the Families “Your Family Live.” Below you will find more about Dale and Jena & their calling into ministry.

Our Journey to Ministry

As a college student, Dale first saw Jena in church in the choir loft and he was smitten. After dating for four years through college, they married in June 1988. Both were raised in church and came from fine Christian homes; they felt pretty secure about entering their married life. But by 1996 their marriage had reached an all-time low. “There was no love, no joy, no relationship” they say. Ironically (but not surprisingly) throughout this time, both were very active in church – Dale a deacon and Jena a wonderful singer. They taught a Young Married Sunday school class. From the outside they seemed to have a perfect marriage, but looks were deceiving. The Forehand’s marriage was unraveling. Like so many couples today, Dale and Jena were hiding behind a mask, pretending everything was O.K.  They were religiously active but not spiritually intimate.

Their marriage, like so many, was revealing their personal brokenness, unresolved hurt, unrealistic expectations and unmet needs. The more they looked to the marriage and one another to meet a need only Christ could fill, they remained empty. This emptiness meant two very unhappy people who took out their frustrations on each other. Caught in the middle of this tug-of-war were their two young children, son Cole and daughter Jorja.

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The Marriage Shatters

As the tension continued to rise in their home, a tipping point happened on a Saturday in July 1996. Dale walked into their home, packed Jena’s bags and told her to get out. The marriage was over. Their fight ended up with Dale grabbing the children and driving away as Jena stood sobbing in the driveway. He headed to the golf course and left the children with his mother at the pool. Jena got the children and headed to her sister’s house. “I called Dale and explained that we needed a time-out, for things to cool down and so I am going to stay away for a while until I felt safe to return,” Jena says. Unbeknownst to Jena, Dale went to see a lawyer who said the children were just as much his as Jena’s and told Dale, “If I were you, I’d go and get them.” One week later at Vacation Bible School, Dale came determined to get the children, taking them from Jena. Jena confused and shocked at what had just happened; reported the incident but the policeman said there was nothing he could do since Dale was their father.

He advised her to call an attorney. Dale with bags packed, disappeared for seven days. Unable to locate the kids, Jena finally called a lawyer who advised her that the only way she could get the kids back into the state was to file for divorce. While in Tennessee Dale’s employer notified him that he had received divorce papers. Both Dale and Jena wanted full custody of the kids, and both refused to leave the marital residence. The judge was left with no choice but to place them back into the house pending a divorce trial. It was an in-house prison. “For 15 months we lived in the house together, awaiting the trial date. The house that used to be a home became a prison,” Jena says. They lived separately and fought over everything. Many nights Jena cried herself to sleep in Cole’s room while six-year-old Cole patted her on the back. They began conducting themselves as if the other did not exist. Most conversations escalated into full-blown arguments so heated Cole would sit in the corner of the dining room and cry with his hands over his ears, begging for it to stop. Their families and friends took sides, because as the Forehand’s say: “sin is never neutral, it always splatters on someone else.” All along their lawyers coached each of them on how to win. Their home became a war zone. After three days of a courtroom battle, the marriage was over and a divorce degree was declared. But their elation was short-lived as frustrations continued over having to communicate with each other about matters with the children. “Every weekend, as we passed the children to the other, we felt as if our own hearts were physically being ripped apart,” Jena says. The frustration, pain and sadness were indescribable.

Reconciliation

Several weeks after the divorce, Dale and Jena got into yet another argument, but this time Jena did something very risky – she let her guard down and let Dale see her heart as she said: “Dale, what have we done? Why don’t you come get me, and let’s fix this thing.” God had been preparing both Dale and Jena for this divine appointment. Through this conversation, the Holy Spirit began to “melt the hardened mess of our hearts.” Within minutes they were sharing and sobbing uncontrollably. The Forehands spent the next four months in frequent, intentional marriage counseling with a godly Christian counselor who walked them through the healing process. Though they worked through some very hard days, at the end of that time, they knew in their minds that re-marriage was what God wanted for them. “On December 21, 1997, we were remarried to the glory of God,” they say. On the morning of their remarriage, Cole told them since they were getting together with each other, he wanted to pray and get together with God. On the day of their re-marriage, Cole gave his life to Christ.

Forming Stained Glass Ministries®

Yes, God worked a miracle in Dale and Jena’s life personally, in their marriage and in their family. As they look back over their journey, they clearly see the powerful hand of God. In 1997, when they remarried, ministry to men, women and marriages was not something they had ever considered. But God never waste a hurt, he longs to take the pain we have experienced and turn it into a passion for him.  Our mess-ups truly can become our ministry. The verse that speaks to them and their calling to minister to the families in this country is 2 Corinthians 1:3-4

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.”(NIV)

This became so evident when Dale and Jena shared their story for the very first time on valentine’s weekend, 1998. After sharing their “amazing grace” story, they remember a young woman coming up to them and saying, “thank you so much for sharing what God did in your life. You see, I was two years old, just like your daughter, when my parents divorced. I’m in my 20’s now but I’m still not over it.  Thank you for trusting God with your marriage.” It was at that moment that the Lord birthed, literally burned within Dale and Jena’s hearts a passion to inspire marriages and build up families. They took the next couple of years to heal, rebuild their love and family.

Dale and Jena Forehand know firsthand the brokenness of their marriage. God used their brokenness to birth confession. Confession created repentance. Repentance rekindled Lordship. Lordship led to faith, hope and love. The Love of Christ and a new love for each other restored and family and in 2003, founded Stained Glass Ministries®. Dale and Jena are examples of God’s grace, where broken, fragmented and stained lives can be put back together to create a beautiful work of art. A stained glass life, a stained glass marriage! They also know that the miracle of a restored marriage is a miracle that God wants couples to take an active part in. In fact, the miracle of a thriving, exciting, fulfilling marriage is miracle that God wants all husbands and wives to take an active part in. It is the heart behind what they do as they travel around the country, leading conferences, speaking and partnering with local and national ministries “shedding the light of Christ on all of life’s relationships”. It’s their prayer that what God did for them, you allow HIM to do for you.  

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Stained Glass Ministries®
is a non-profit 501 (C) 3 ministry based out of Birmingham Alabama. Stained Glass Ministries® exist to enlighten, empower and equip individuals to walk with God, exhibiting HIS glory in their lives and relationships through Biblical teaching and training.  Their mission is to “shed the light of Christ on all of life’s relationships.”

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